First, an update on the Lord of Darkness giveaway. The winner (who has already been notified and whose books are already on the way) is…
Next up, Kim, over at Reflections of a Book Addict, and I have another dueling review, this time about Maya Banks’ loved-or-hated Rush, the first book in her new Breathless Trilogy. While reading the book, we kept up a steady stream of tweets and emails, and it soon became clear that we both had issues with the monumentally unheroic Gabe (note: he’s not an anti-hero… he’s actually just a douche bag) and the weak, complacent Mia. We worried that the recent spate of books that seem to encourage unhealthy relationships might have a negative effect on women in our culture, so we wrote an open letter to women who are thinking about entering into a relationship and who wonder if, perhaps, their relationship (or arrangement) is a trifle unhealthy.
Check out the full post, over at Kim’s blog. I’ve copied our open letter below.
Dear Woman Who Deserves Better Than What She’s Signing Up For,
We really want to see you with a man who deserves you. Therefore you should know that if any of the following statements ring true for your relationship, something’s wrong.
- Did you have to sign a contract with your new “significant other?”
- If part of the negotiations require you getting him to agree to fidelity to just you…..something’s wrong (especially when there is a whole paragraph already included in the contract about your fidelity to him!)
- If you need your “significant other’s” permission to hang out with your friends, something’s wrong.
- If you’re not allowed to speak to your friends about your relationship, something’s wrong.
- If you get permission to hang out with your friends, and your “significant other” still gets upset because alcohol is involved, something’s wrong. You’re in your twenties. Live it the fuck up.
- If your contract stipulates that all your physical and financial needs will be met in return for your ceding all control over yourself and your functions, but said contract makes no mention at all of your emotional well-being, something’s wrong.
- If your contract states that it’s totally OK for your “significant other” to share you, occasionally, with other people, and you’re not quite sure what that means, so you have to ask about it, something’s wrong.
- If you might be on the positive side of ambivalent, once it’s explained, that’s cool. But if, when the sharing happens, you aren’t in possession of the full facts, and it’s awful, and it happens anyway, something’s wrong.
- If your “significant other” shares you without your permission and you get upset, and his response is to just take you on a shopping spree….something’s wrong.
- So, you’re having sex with your “significant other.” If he’s constantly shouting at you to give him your eyes, something’s wrong. I mean really, those are your eyes! Why should you give them up?
- While at the office, if your “significant other” says, “Hey, come over here. I’m going to put this butt plug in you, and you’re going to wear it all day,” something’s wrong. Seriously girl, that’s your butt. What if it’s Mexican lunch day in the office? You gotta say no to that chili because he wants those plugs in you all day? Hells no.
- If your “significant other” says “I’m looking forward to f**king this sweet ass” more than once (and that once is permissible only if there’s a lot of alcohol involved), something’s wrong.
- If your “significant other” starts hitting on his dad’s girlfriend, like right in front of you, and you’re like, “What?!” and you leave, and then your “significant other” gets all kinds of angry at you for leaving that shit, something’s wrong.
- If your “significant other” basically rapes your mouth because he’s too impatient to let you go at your own pace, something’s wrong.
- If your “significant other” constantly asks you, “Did you eat?” GET THE HELL OUT OF THERE. Your fast metabolism won’t last forever and you’ll just end up obese with the amount of food he keeps plying you with.
- If your “significant other” wants to pay you an outrageous sum of money so that you’ll be his beck and call girl (and butt-plug recipient), something’s wrong. You’re not a prostitute. You shouldn’t be treated as such.
- If you have to pay the piper for all the stupid shit your “significant other’s” ex-wife did, something’s wrong. That’s his baggage, girl, and it shouldn’t have anything to do with you.
As we said earlier, something’s wrong if these statements describe your relationship. We’d be more than happy to help you get out and find someone much more worthy of you.
With sincere love,
Kelly & Kim